About a year ago I started working outside of the home full time. In 17 years of marriage and 13 years of motherhood I’ve primarily been a stay at home/work from home mom. I believe in the priority of the family over the other commitments in your life. I, also believe that God has placed a purpose inside of each of us to extend our influence beyond the four walls of our home. As the debate as to whether women can have it all continues to rage on from generation to generation, I’ve resolved there’s no one size fits all answer. There will always exist a tension between being there for those we love and doing work we love. This conversation persists, because our response determines the quality of our futures.
When I approach the topic of work/life balance, I don’t think God first, then family and then work, because I don’t know this hierarchy truly exists. God is love. He is very much apart of the love and commitment we have for our family and the love and fulfillment we get from our work. This to me is the reason why it’s so difficult to separate the two. When we are engaged with our families and have a sense of purpose in our work, God is in them both. It’s not an either/or proposition. We want to have it all, because we want to experience the pleasure of companionship and fulfilling work. I’m not saying our affections for our work can’t be off balance with our family commitment. If we have made our family take a back seat to the demands of our careers, businesses, ministries, then we have adjustments to make. But, isn’t the reverse also true? If our work is taking a back seat to our families, should we be looking to make adjustments?
Here’s why I ask: Don’t you think your favorite athlete, communicator, entertainer has some work/life balance issues? They are creating this great work under pressure, just as you are. They are probably out of balance most days. There’s a huge commitment of time required to produce strong families and great work. If they weren’t spending this time, the world would be a different place.
Why can’t we do both? Should one have to suffer because of the other? Aren’t our work and our families apart of the legacy we leave to this world?
I want us to seek ways to do both, to build strong families and produce great work. My commitment to my family and my work are forms of worship I give to God. God give us the grace and wisdom to win in both areas of our lives. We just need to ask for His help.
Lord help me…
2 Corinthians 12:9 (NLT)
…My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness…
It’s your turn: Is “having it all” important to you? What ways are you winning in your work and your family life? What adjustments do you need to make?
Destined to win,