by Min Erica Moore
Either/Or Thinking is characterized by believing that in order for one area of my life to flourish, another area must suffer. Someone with this mindset has difficulty believing that they can successfully achieve both or achieve both at the same time, so they think they have to choose. This causes them to focus on one area, while neglecting the other.
Here are some examples of Either/Or thoughts:
- I can either put in long hours at my job & be successful or I can spend more time with my child and be a good parent.
- I can either have a great social life or focus on my relationship with God.
- I can either be a bored, secure employee or I can be a happy, broke artist.
- I can either accept the (man/woman) interested in me now or I can wait and possibly never have an intimate relationship because there may not be a better option out there.
- I can either eat healthy food I don’t enjoy and stay thin or I can eat what I want and be fat.
If we don’t attack thinking like this head on, they could form strongholds that could remain for years. These thoughts contradict the edifying statements God says concerning us from the Word, such as . . .
“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”
“Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.”
“Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”
“Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.”
Jesus came to give us the John 10:10 life of abundant, satisfied, fulfilled living, not the tired, miserable, barely getting by way of living. If that’s what He came to give, then let’s get aggressive and take what rightfully belongs to us as heirs of the Kingdom of God. The word “life” in this verse translates as Zoe from the Greek and it means the God kind of life. In other words, Jesus was saying that He came, not just to save us from sin and it’s penalty (and thank God He did do that) but to also give us the kind of life God would have if He were you or me. Now let’s ponder that for a moment. If God were you, would He be wrestling with the idea of “I can either have a great career or an awesome family but I can’t have both?” Of course not, NO! He’d be thinking, “All things are possible to Him that believes!” (Mark 9:23).
So see, it is so vitally important that as we endeavor to live our best lives now, the Zoe life, the God kind of life that Jesus died for us to have, that we rid ourselves of these defeated mindsets that obviously don’t come from God. They come from the Thief, whose mission is to steal from us, kill our dreams and destroy whatever life God would have us live. The good news is that we’ve already won this battle, according to scripture:
And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony. Rev 12:11a
We have already overcome! We simply have to walk it out!
What about you? What’s one area of your life you’ve limited with Either Or thinking? Find a scripture this week that speaks to that limitation.
Minister Erica Moore is one of the dynamic speakers who will be rocking the house at the 2014 You Are Stronger Than You Think Women’s Event. This book is an excerpt for her upcoming first book release, I’m Done with Either Or Thinking!
Minister Erica’s Session is titled, I’m Done with Either Or Thinking!
What you can expect: In Minister Erica’s session she will explain what a limiting Either/or thought is and why we need to get rid of them, how to do so and what to replace them with. “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he.” This session could be the breakthrough you need!
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